Your husband may be a good provider but an absent partner. He works late, scrolls on his phone during dinner, and offers physical proximity without emotional intimacy. His father, however, engages with you. He asks questions. He remembers that you hate mushrooms and love gardening. Your husband has stopped courting you; his father treats you like a person of value.
. Your father-in-law had decades to grow into the man he is today. Your husband is still in the "construction phase." Loving the mentor doesn't mean the student isn't worth your time. 4. Navigating the Guilt I love my father-in-law more than my husband......
You also have to consider the perspective of your mother-in-law. If she is still in the picture, your strong attachment to her husband might make her uncomfortable. She knows her husband is charming. She has lived with his flaws for forty years. Your doe-eyed admiration of him might feel like an invasion of her territory, even if unintentional. Your husband may be a good provider but an absent partner
It's crucial to remember that: